No reasonable person goes into parenthood thinking it’s going to be financially rewarding, but even when you plan for your bank account to take a hit, there are dozens of ways the cost of having a baby can catch you off guard. Here are 13 moms on the expenses -- both large and small -- that surprised them during their babies’ first year. 

1. “Extra car seats for various people that would be driving the baby! Grandma, sitter, etc.” --Carla, mom of three in San Diego, CA

2. “Cable TV, because I was stuck at home nursing so much. As a first-time mom I was too overwhelmed to take my baby anywhere alone until she was six months old, so that meant a lot of couch time. (Luckily, I got over that with my second kid.)” --Lisa, mom of two in Alameda, CA

3. “We spent a lot on sleep things. Special blankets, sleep suits, sound machines, etc.”--Becca, mom of one in Nashville, TN

4. “Supplies in support of breastfeeding, and especially pumping. Storage bottles/bags, spare pump parts, the pump itself, regular bottles/nipples. People talk about how breastfeeding is so cheap! But no.” --Angela, mom of one in Seattle, WA  

5. “I didn’t count on all the money I spent going places just to get out of the house. Coffee shops, museums, the mall, mommy-and-me classes, etc. But hey, it was cheaper than the therapy I’d need if I’d just stayed home.” --Rebecca, mom of two in Hayward, CA

6. “Formula. I didn’t realize how much it cost for a can, and how quickly we would go through it.” --Miranda, mom of two in Vancouver, BC

7. “Life insurance. I had a policy through my employer, and even increased the coverage when my older son was born, but when I switched jobs I needed to buy my own policy. Hadn’t planned on it, but of course the peace of mind is priceless.” –Amanda, mom of two in Princeton, NJ

8. “Takeout/prepared food, as I was way too tired/overwhelmed to cook.” --Jacquie, mom of two in Darien, CT

9. “Things bought in desperation to help with teething. Sooooo many late-night online purchases. So much money.” --Ashley, mom of three in Springfield, MA

10. “The cost of me not working was a surprise expense, only because I thought I’d be ready to go back to work when my maternity leave was up. And then I wasn’t.” --Carrie, mom of two in Boise, ID

11. “Photographers! I had no idea. Both for newborn photo shoots and family photos, but even the hospital photos seemed really high for what you got. But of course you want them!” --Celeste, mom of one in Columbus, OH

12. “BOTTLES. Nothing would please my baby, and I had to go back to work. Bought so many kinds of bottles and paraphernalia. So stressful.” --Caitie, mom of one in Iowa City, IA

13. “We had to buy a new car because although we could fit our twins, we didn’t have room for an extra person, which we needed because my mom moved in with us for a month to help with the babies.” --Amy J., mom of two in Salt Lake City, UT

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There is nothing as surreal as the moment you leave the hospital with your first child. You probably think: They are just going to let me go? With this tiny, helpless baby? I vividly remember those new baby days as a time of wild love and total fear. So, how normal and justified are some of the most common new-parent fears?

According to Dr. Christiane Manzella, clinical director for the non-profit Seleni Institute -- an organization that focuses on women’s health issues -- it is “absolutely normal to feel terrified or scared when it comes to being a new parent.”

There's definitely a learning curve to parenthood, and it can be easy to feel high levels of stress and anxiety about taking care of a brand-new person. We talked to some moms about their new-parent anxiety and found out the reassuring truth about some of these super common fears.

SIDS

Jonna R., from Boston, Massachusetts, was scared, like many new moms, about sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). She recalls, “[I was] not totally irrational, but I had read that overheating was bad, so I dressed her in a short-sleeved onesie, no blanket, and turned on the air conditioner so it was a cool 67. Air-conditioned. In Vermont in the winter. She didn't sleep.”

Although SIDS is scary to think about, the good news is that SIDS is far less common than it used to be, largely thanks to higher rates of parents placing babies on their backs to sleep. Research suggests that less than 0.5 percent of infants will die of SIDS, making it tragic but rare. According to the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, SIDS rates have been steadily declining, and experts still don't know exactly why it happens, but we do know that parents can reduce the risk by making sure not to smoke around the baby (or during pregnancy) and by using safe sleep practices, such as keeping loose blankets and other objects out of the crib.

More from The Stir: 11 Must-Do Tips for Reducing the Risk of SIDS

Failure to Bond

Mindy G. from Des Moines, Iowa, had a fear that might be more common than many moms realize: “I felt I was supposed to instantly fall in love with him and [worried about] what would happen if I didn't instantly love him.”

Anxiety about falling in love with your baby is, according to Dr. Manzella, “so normal.” She reports that “many moms in the beginning say ‘oh my gosh, I don’t love my baby, what’s wrong with me?’” Often, shifting hormones and the intensive work of caring for a newborn can slow down the process, and that's completely normal. After all, you’ve just met! Remember: Most relationships don’t start with love at first sight, says Dr. Manzella.

Spend more time together, and Manzella assures us that you'll get there. “Wanting to love your baby is the beginning of a bond," she says. "The hope of wanting to love is the start.”

Kidnapping

Once we are in love with our little ones, it can be hard not to imagine all of the terrible things that can happen to them, including someone snatching them. For Mary F. from San Jose, California, this was her biggest fear: “I was convinced that someone was going to kidnap the baby. I was totally terrified for months of people coming too close to the stroller in public or that someone would snatch him from the day care center.”

The good news is that infant abduction by a stranger is incredibly, amazingly low. Although it might make for big news when it happens, the truth is that, according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, there are generally less than 10 cases of this happening a year. In 2014, for example, there were just six reported abductions of infants by strangers, and all six babies were reunited, unharmed, with their families.

So as long as you're keeping watch of your child, you should breathe easy. That old lady approaching your stroller probably just wants a peak at the cuteness!

More from The Stir: Co-Sleeping With Baby: What's Your Safety IQ? (TRIVIA)

Strain on Marriage

For Bevin H., from Tucson, Arizona, the biggest fear she had as a new mom wasn’t about her baby -- it was about her marriage. “I felt like we loved each other so much that we wanted to have a family, but then you hear all of these things about how babies can wreck your marriage and sex life, and I was like ‘Wait! I don’t want to ruin this really good thing!’ That felt stressful for sure.”

In many ways, Bevin’s fears were justified. There is plenty of research that suggests that having a child can be hard on a marriage, and according to Dr. Manzella, therapists “expect a dip in marital satisfaction, especially in the first year when the most challenges come into the relationship.” She points out that new parents not only have to contend with sleeplessness and figuring out how to parent together, but they also are having less sex and alone time than ever before.

But even though marriage stress is common for new parents, that doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. With a commitment to learning to reconnect as adults and trying to make a point of making time for affection and sexuality (which are two separate and important things, reminds Dr. Manzella), most couples can make it through the early days and come to find satisfaction in becoming a family while also staying a couple.

Being an Incompetent Parent

One of the most common fears was the one shared by Amy K. of Dorr, Michigan: “At the hospital I remember thinking, They are actually going to let me take my baby home? Don’t they realize I don’t know what I’m doing?”

Even after reading every parenting book and taking birth and breastfeeding classes, it can be totally normal to feel like becoming a good -- or even competent -- mom is a huge task. It can also be hard to admit feeling scared, something that Dr. Manzella argues we need to “acknowledge and normalize,” as “it usually gets better. But there is an unrealistic expectation that a woman will automatically know what to do ... this can be a terrible bind on a new mother!”

The truth on this one is that it does take time to figure out how to become the parent you want to be, but you don’t have to have it figured out right away! There will be a lot of things you'll just have to learn by doing. It's okay not to do everything perfectly the first time.

So, take comfort if you feel like an anxious new parent. Your fears are likely both totally normal and unlikely to come true. You've got this.

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It’s getting less bitter and more sweet seeing where this next stage of my family life is heading. I’m past debating more babies, past pregnancy, and ready to help make these babies into good people who will do big things with their lives.

I’m not trying to rush them, but as my kids get older I’m sad to see a couple things go, and so excited for some new adventures ahead

First of all, I’m excited for more traveling. And I don’t just mean traveling for Disney vacations. Though I love them, I really can’t wait to visit other places with my family: D.C. and New Orleans are at the top of our lists (that is my and Lil’ J’s list, the hubs isn’t very much into traveling.) I would love to take my kids around the world. I want to go places without them too, but I think it would be so fun to research countries and cultures, then learn first-hand through experience together.

A desire I think most parents can relate to: Less Mess! While tiny handprints on my walls and windows are endearing and precious while it lasts, I’m looking forward to tidier days. I am SO ready to say goodbye to stinky diaper pails. I thought I’d be done by now, but my son can’t seem to get over his fear of pooping in the potty and my husband can’t seem to buy enough Renzuit®  air fresheners for my son’s room. The new Sensitive Scents™  are great for stifling that diaper stink without overpowering with it’s own scent (also great for new babies for that reason). Though it’ll be nice not to have a poop stench to mask, we love the smell of the air fresheners so much we’ll keep them around. Besides, I’m sure there will be new smells to mask as our boy gets bigger.

Something I love now, but I think I’ll love even more as they get older is discovering who they are. It’s a miracle that I grew these little people who are becoming their own independent selves. I really look forward to watching their interests and passions blossom, and helping them discover their divine nature. Who they’re meant to be.

Though I’m looking forward to doing more reading and not feeling guilty for going out on girls’ nights or date nights with my husband, I am going to miss this stage too. I’m going to miss how cute and cuddly they are. That probably sounds strange, but my kids are both extremely snuggly and I LOVE it. From birth they’d curl up on me and have the sweetest baby smell. They don’t smell like babies any more but I still just love soaking in the smell of their hair and kissing their soft skin. Do teenagers like to cuddle with their moms? I sure hope so, because I can picture myself crying when my big kids no longer want to snuggle with me on the couch.

So sticky floors, smelly rooms and children who need my love and attention will still be in my future. But I’m looking forward to exploring new places and making and achieving new dreams all together.

What are you looking forward to doing when your kids are older?

*This story is sponsored by Renuzit® with new sensitive products. All opinions are my own.

Jennifer Borget is a part-time news anchor and reporter and full-time mom documenting life in extraordinary ways. A domestically-challenged mom of two helping other parents make beautiful memories with their beautiful babies at Baby Making Machine.

You have a new baby coming and it's getting closer and closer to the big day. If it's your first child, you are pretty much bonkers crazy with trying to prepare mentally, as well as get the house in order. If this is not your first rodeo, it's still a daunting task without a doubt. Getting everything ready for the big day and for the arrival of your little addition doesn't have to be completely overwhelming. Here are 8 things to remember before bringing your new baby home.

1. Get used to the idea of being utterly and completely exhausted.
You won't be sleeping much any time soon. And that's ok. Yes, the first few weeks or months can be a very trying time. You can prep all you want and "sleep as much as you can" prior to the big day, but there's not much to prepare you for the sleep deprivation that will ensue. Just deal with it as best as you can and if you are home try to nap when the baby naps. Drink tons of caffeine and enjoy the ride. It may seem like a lifetime, but it passes, quickly enough, so try your best to not freak out too much. Oh yeah..let the nurses take the baby when you are in the hospital. It's your last grasp at normalcy for a while!

2. Prepare the baby's room now.
We all love the idea of having the perfect nursery. It looks wonderful in the magazines, it feels fantastic when you are liking some amazing pins, and we all love the idea of having the perfect place for your little one to sleep and play. I love it all. No matter what it is you are planning to do, be as realistic as you can be and get it all done with weeks to go before the baby is to arrive. There's no time like the present and this can't be more true in this case. Yes, it seems like you have all of those 40 weeks to get it done, but time flies, things happen, life is tricky. You don't want to be caught off guard, or, if you're like me, stuck with bedrest, hospitals, and babies coming 3 weeks early. Just do it now. Even if it just sits there. It's ok. You want it to be done the way you want it to be done. Don't complicate your life further. The baby will do all of that on his or her own.

3. Buy a great baby monitor.
This is something you should splurge on. Pick out the best you can afford, even if it seems excessive. It's such a wonderful piece of mind, you don't know. What's more important than the baby’s safety...nothing. What's second to that...your sanity. Do me a favor, if it has cameras, multiple handsets, even wi-fi link-up, just do it. You will feel so much better. Trust me, you won't want to let it go. You will use this way past the point that you really need to. The baby has bumpers and a security blanket. This is yours.

4. It's not silly...get a rocking chair.
This may seem like something that's excessive, quaint, and even outmoded...but it's not. Depending on how you and your little one operate, it could be your saving grace. Natalie was super colicky and she would be up all night. The one thing that relaxed her and kept me comfortable through it all was the chair. Sure it can seem big and maybe out of place, but it works and it's fantastic. I would think that pretty every baby likes this type of motion and the chair makes it all smoother and easier than you could do while standing up. It's MUCH easier when you are feeding your little one, too. Sure, you might not be getting that muscle-ripping workout this way, but I think you'll be happier. Bill got so attached, he doesn't want to give it up!

5. Get on a schedule.
No, it's not always perfect. Yes, you have every intention to make it perfect. Do your best and you'll thank yourself later. Get into some habits and onto a schedule right away. Try to get the baby to eat and sleep at similar times each day. Get yourself into a schedule, too. Take some of the uncertainty and guesswork out of the day. It's better for the baby and much better for you.

6. Try your best to prepare everyone in the family.
This is pretty much the biggest life change you will ever experience. Get yourself, your spouse, your kids, and anyone else in your lives about as ready as you or they can be. Be conscious that everyone will have their lives turned upside down and that everyone in the family is just as important as they ever were. It's also great if everyone feels involved in caring for the new baby, so think of things that everyone can do once he/she comes home. This goes for your spouse, your kids, your dog...everybody

7. Baby proof your house.
Babies get into everything. Sure they don't do much at first, but before you can blink, they are crawling then hobbling then running and getting into just about everything. Stuff you never thought possible. Pad the table corners, cover the outlets, deadlock the doors. Gates are your friend. So is everything sensitive you can imagine. From laundry detergent to the scent in your house, everything has to be as sweet, subtle, and baby-friendly as possible.

8. Acknowledge and accept how mind-blowingly fantastic it all is.
You're bringing a new life into this world. Hello. It's kind of a big deal. Revel in it. Celebrate it. Get really excited about it. Get nervous about it. Savor every bit of it. Time flies and anyone with kids knows that it moves so much faster when you have kids. It's a big deal, but it's also a lot of fun. Don't make it a job. Don't worry too much (worry, but not too much). Try your best to take it all in and appreciate what it's all about. I know it's hard, especially if you don't have a child yet, but trust me...don't let it get away from you. Before you know it they are walking, talking, going to school, and getting married. What? You bet. I can't believe my oldest will be 11 in June. My little baby just turned 3! It's madness and life has a way of making you forget

There are so many things to consider. It's a whirlwind but it's amazing. When thinking about making your house smell its best (I can't not have some amazing smells in the house at all times), but are concerned about your new addition, Sensitive Scents™ from Renuzit® brand is your answer.

Scents™ from Renuzit® brand is the first line of air fresheners developed to perform without overpowering even sensitive noses in your home. Each product was tested with sensitive noses to confirm they deliver a long-lasting and well balanced air freshener experience without overpowering.

I put these everywhere in my house. Literally. They are amazing. I just can't get enough of them and it feels better knowing that it's made for even sensitive noses.

There are even multiple ways you can enjoy the product, which I just love. I'm an options girl!

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This is a sponsored post in partnership with CafeMom and Renuzit® brand. All opinions, suggestions, and commiseration is my own.

Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of LadyAndTheBlog.com. She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.

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When we brought home each one of our daughters, life was totally different.

With Maddie, I was a brand new mom who had spent months on bedrest during a high risk pregnancy…in and out of the hospital.  So, I was thrilled to be bringing home my baby girl! It was close to the same with Ashley.  With Emmy, I had more of a normal homecoming, although we only had a month to plan for her at all. Adoption can be strange like that.

One thing that stayed the same for all of them is that homecoming is a really special time for moms, babies, and families.

After bringing home all of these babies, I now know how to create a welcoming homecoming for both moms and babies, and these are my favorite tips.

They are available in stores now in the following scents… Pure Ocean Breeze™ (my favorite for the common areas of the house), it reminds me of our vacations by the ocean. Pure White Pear & Lavender™, which we are using in Emmy’s room. She loves the mellow scents of sweet pears and heavenly lavender. Pure Water Blossom & Cucumber™, which is a refreshing reminder to savor special moments with family.

Do you have any tips to share for creating a welcoming homecoming for new babies and moms?

Heather Delaney Reese from It's a Lovely Life is an inspirational storyteller and lifestyle writer who loves food, travel, So Cal, tech, Disney & family adventures.

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When I was pregnant with my first baby, I had no idea what to expect. I hadn’t really been around babies much in years and felt completely overwhelmed about how to prepare.

So now that I’ve had three babies, I can look back with a little more insight about what went right and what went wrong. Here is the best advice I can give a new parent:

1. Be Prepared Early – The last month (or two) of pregnancy can be extremely exhausting and uncomfortable. Instead of thinking that you still have a couple of months to prepare, I’d try to get everything ready by month 7 if possible. Consider what you'll want for the baby in the nursery and throughout the house. I made sure we had diaper changing and nap-time areas set up on both floors of the house, baby-proofed the house, and even changed out bright lamps and strong scents for more baby-appropriate versions.*

2. Don’t Sweat the Little Things – I can’t even guess how many hours I spent looking at strollers, baby carriers, diaper bags, bottles and other baby gear. What if I didn’t get the one-handed steer? What if it didn’t have the latest bell or whistle on the market? In the end, I wish I’d just picked the middle-of-the-road everything and saved the receipts in case they didn’t work out. 

3. Divide the Responsibilities – It was tough to let others help with my precious new baby, so it took me a while to accept help. But day after day of very little sleep took its toll and I finally had to let others take some of the baby care tasks. I finally got much needed rest, the baby was well cared for and loved, and life was a lot easier.

4. Be Flexible – Whether it’s your birth plan, how you want to feed your baby, or another parenting decision you’ve made, be flexible. Things don’t always happen the way we think they will and it’s important to remember what’s important – that baby is healthy and well-taken care of. My baby’s birth was a trainwreck of problems with many complications needing several different teams of specialists. But my daughter and I survived with no serious long-term problems, which was all that truly mattered.

5. Be Honest – Remember to take care of yourself and your baby first. If you don’t want the in-laws staying at your house right after the birth, say so. If you aren’t comfortable with others holding your new baby at first, be honest. Your most important job is to take care of your baby, not stress about what the mother-in-law wants. Just be firm and kind and set the boundaries that you need for your new baby.

* There are so many things to consider when preparing for a new baby, but sometimes we overlook the very simple things. Babies' worlds are all about the senses in the first few months. They aren't able to express what they like, so it's our responsibility to keep them comfortable. Change out bright bulbs in lamps for dimmer ones, consider how soft and warm the baby's clothes and bedding/swing/bouncer/blankets are, change strongly scented candles and air fresheners for some with scents that are more appropriate for sensitive noses.

Renuzit® brand has a brand new line of Sensitive Scents™ products. It's the first line of air fresheners developed for sensitive noses, made with subtle scents that are pleasant but not overpowering. 

Sensitive Scents fresheners are available in several different products, including Renuzit Adjustable Cones that are great for small spaces, universal scented oils that work with most popular oil-warming units, and trigger sprays that are perfect for eliminating the toughest odors in the air, on fabrics, and in vehicles.

The Renuzit® Sensitive Scents™ collection comes in several fragrances, including Pure Ocean Breeze™, Pure White Pear & Lavender™, and Pure Water Blossom & Cucumber™.

You can find the new Renuzit® Sensitive Scents™ collection in local stores.

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How did you prepare your home for the arrival of your new baby?

Mickey Coutts is the mother of three and blog owner at A Helicopter Mom, a helpful and fun resource to make life a little easier for busy moms. Her blog also features reviews, product giveaways, and in-person coverage of local and national conferences and events.

We were walking around the mall when my oldest son was just a little baby, my husband and I beaming as new parents and proud to show off our child as we strolled around window shopping. I had a few items I needed to get while we were there, and when we passed the popular candles and soap store I turned in to stock up on our favorite soaps that we had run out of. Immediately my son switched a gear and he was screaming and my husband tried all the normal solutions to calm him down while I finished my shopping.

Nothing was working, and so my husband signaled to me that he would take the baby out of the store and walk him around to try and soothe him. They got about 5 steps outside the store and my son stopped crying. Not even a whimper, he stopped. When I came out of the store, my husband told me what had happened and said "I think he was crying because of the smell in there!" Just to test that theory, we walked back over by the store and sure enough, the baby started screaming at the top of his lungs again. I was not surprised, the scent in that store is overwhelming but it never occurred to me just how much it would bother my new baby.

That day is forever burned into my memory. I wanted to be more careful around him, and when baby number two was expected to come any day, I made sure to rid our home of overpowering scents just in case. I only used mildly scented candles but they just didn't work as well so we just stopped using them until he was older.

Babies can be affected by strong scents. Their senses are new and getting used to a sensory overload, so bringing harsh scents around them can overwhelm their new little noses. Prepare your home and even guests for when baby first comes home to be sure your little one is comfortable in their new environment.

If you are still looking to keep your home smelling fresh without overpowering your new little one (or the other sensitive noses in your home) you're in luck! There are new products from Renuzit®brand on the market that are made even for sensitive noses!

The new Sensitive Scents line from Renuzit brand are the perfect way to keep a pleasant smell in your home. Available in Adjustable Cones, Universal Scented Oils that fit many different brand warming units and Trigger Sprays, the new Sensitive Scents perform without overpowering. Each product was tested with sensitive noses to confirm they deliver a long-lasting and well balanced air freshener experience without overpowering.

I was able to test all three new scents in my home the last few weeks, and my oldest son (who still has a very sensitive nose thanks to being on the Autism Spectrum) LOVED the smell of the Pure Water Blossom & Cucumber™ fragrance so much that he chose that for his bathroom. A bathroom used by all boys isn't always the freshest smelling place despite mom's never-ending clean up, but the subtle scent of our Sensitive Scent Renuzit cone has helped to keep that bathroom smelling fresh without feeling like you're walking into a cloud of scent.

The new Renuzit Sensitive Scents™ air fresheners are available in stores now, check them out for yourself and keep your home smelling fresh without getting overwhelmed.

Does anyone in your family have sensitivity to odors?

Emily Stone is Co-Founder of Simply Real Moms where she shares parenting advice and product reviews.

This is a sponsored post but all opinions are my own.

Putting together your baby's nursery can be extremely exciting, but also a little stressful. Before my daughter was born, I remember wanting to create the perfect little sanctuary for her to learn and grown. However, I had no idea which items I actually needed. Although I wanted to make sure her nursery was fashionable, the last thing I wanted to do was spend a lot of money on frivolous things. Learn how to dress your baby's nursery in style and functionality with these 10 baby nursery must haves.

1. Black-out curtains: It's totally worth it to spend money on thick curtains that will block out the sun, providing your baby with better quality sleep.

2. Rocking chair: Make sure you have a comfortable seat that you can sit in for nighttime feedings.

3. Noise maker: Nothing is worse than getting your baby to sleep only to have a loud noise wake them up. White noise is key!

4. Night light: I love using a nightlight during my daughter's nighttime feedings. A night light helps me to be able to find my way around the room without having to turn on an overhead light.

5. Plenty of blankets: We use blankets for everything at our house: swaddling, burping, tummy time, nursing, etc. Make sure you have plenty on hand.

6. Changing pad/table: Whether you choose to invest in a changing table or just use a changing pad, make sure you have a designated space where you can change your baby.

7. Baby Monitor: Video baby monitors are an absolute must. Being able to see your baby at any given moment without risking waking them up is priceless!

8. Baskets: You can never have too many baskets in your baby's nursery. I seriously use baskets to help me organize everything - clothes, books, toys, diapers, etc.

9. Mobile: I've always loved putting mobiles in my children's room. Not only do they add a splash of color, they also give the baby something to look at and reach for.

10. Air Freshener: Although newborn babies are the most precious little humans on the planet, they sure know how to stink up a nursery! There is no better way to keep your baby's nursery smelling fresh than with Renuzit® Sensitive Scents™ brand.

Designed for the most sensitive noses, Renuzit® Sensitive Scents™ air fresheners help keep your entire home (including baby's room) smelling delightful. 

What are your baby nursery must haves?

Meagan Ivie of A Mom’s Take loves being the mother to a toddler who thinks he's a puppy and a chocolate lab who wishes he were human. When Meagan isn't pulling her son from the doggie door or fishing dog food from his mouth, Meagan enjoys decorating, crafting, cooking, thrift shopping, and eating at unique restaurants.

I received compensation in exchange for this post. All opinions are my own. 

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My sister just had a baby, so I've found myself giving her advice almost daily. Why not share it with you, too? It's been a few years, but I remember how exciting and nerve-wracking it was to bring our baby home the day we left the hospital. I've also learned that babies don't really need all that much the first few weeks.

• Car seat. This is a must, because the hospital won't let you take a baby home without one! Install it in the weeks before your due date so it's ready to go. Practice removing it from the base and attaching it; some can be tricky.

• Diapers and wipes. You go through them so quickly so you can never have enough! I'd buy both in bulk so I'd never run out. Once baby grows out of a size, you can always donate the leftover diapers to a family in need.

• Clothes. A few onesies, at least 3 footed PJs, socks, a hat or two, and a cute outfit to come home in is all you need at first. Don't forget to have a selection of comfy clothes for yourself as well. You won't fit back into your skinny jeans immediately!

• Bassinet or co-sleeper. Ours was attached to my side of the bed so I literally could pick my baby up, feed her, change her diaper, and put her right back to sleep without getting up. It makes falling back asleep so much easier!

• Stroller. One thing that helped me maintain my sanity those first few sleep-deprived months was taking regular walks with my baby, from the day I brought her home.  It's a great way to get babies to sleep! You'll need a stroller that works with an infant car seat, or one that lays back completely since newborns can't hold their heads up.

• Breast pump. I didn't think I would need one at first, but being able to pump and store some milk in case I had to leave the house unexpectedly was essential. The pump also helped me increase my milk supply.

• Bottles. Again, you may not think you need them at first, but you might! You may have a doctor's appointment or some kind of emergency where you have to leave the baby for a few hours. It's good to have a few on hand.

• Ready-to-heat meals in the freezer. Lasagna, casseroles, soups, anything that freezes well. The trick is making double (or even triple) batches of meals and freezing them when you make dinner in the weeks before your due date. The first few days after you bring baby home are a blur of breastfeeding and diapers, which doesn't leave you much time in the kitchen. It's so easy for your husband or a friend to take something out of the freezer and heat it up even if they don't cook!

• Air freshener. With children and pets around, and not having time to clean quite as much, you're bound to have odors in your house. You'll have lots of visitors that want to meet the baby and nothing is more welcoming than a clean-smelling home! Infuse it with the pleasant aromas of the new Renuzit® Sensitive Scents™ collection, the first line of air fresheners developed for even sensitive noses. Available in stores now, the subtle scents, like Pure White Pear & Lavender™, are perfect for homes with babies because they're long-lasting and perform without overpowering.

• Camera. One thing I regret about my baby's first few weeks is not having a good camera to capture all those special moments. Nowadays everyone has a smartphone, but having a real camera within reach is a must so you don't have to deal with your phone dying unexpectedly or the dreaded "Not enough storage" message popping up when you attempt to take a video of your baby giggling for the first time!

So there you go. Those are my recommendations for the items you must have before bringing baby home. Other baby gear, like a crib, bath tub and toys, can be purchased later on. No rush!

What's on your list of essentials to get before baby comes?

Mariana Perez is a Latina mom living in the suburbs of Washington, DC where she spends her evenings blogging at The Domestic Buzz; writing about motherhood, marriage, and everything it entails.

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Mother's Day is fast approaching, but here at CafeMom's The Stir, we've decided that one day just isn't enough to show all of the moms out there our appreciation -- for everything that they do and more. That's why we are declaring that "May Is For Moms." And we are celebrating moms all month long with a string of fabulous giveaways that will make moms swoon!

Now every mom knows the value of having a stylish and spacious bag to carry around all of the knickknacks that moms need. To kick off our "May Is For Moms" giveaway, we are giving one lucky reader a chance to win a Petunia Pickle Bottom Downtown Tote ($139-$159), and the winner even gets to pick the design of the tote that they want!

The Petunia Pickle Bottom Downtown Tote is the perfect accessory for any mom. This versatile diaper bag can hold everything from makeup to baby powder, and it even comes with a removable baby changing pad and a Petunia Pickle Bottom monogrammed wipes case. It has everything that a mom could need. Plus, you can even buy clips to strap it onto a stroller. 

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Even if you’re hoping this Mother’s Day will include some combination of flowers, breakfast in bed, and words of profound gratitude for everything you do, we all know that the best gift is simply being a mom to your own little person. So this year, in between the snuggles and the slightly burnt toast, why not take a moment to whisper thanks to your babies for all they’ve done for you? Here are nine ideas to get you started:  

1. Thank you for not cringing when I sing you off-key lullabies (and, okay, my favorite rock songs).

2. Thank you for sleeping through the night, even if it was just that one time.

3. Thank you for letting me put you in that ridiculous outfit for that ridiculous photo shoot and then posting the pictures all over my social media accounts.

4. Thank you for forgiving me when I gave you a slice of lemon just to see what would happen.

5. Thank you for laughing at my silly faces and stupid dance moves.

6. Thank you for teaching me to see the world through new eyes.

7. Thank you for teaching me to see myself through new eyes.

8. Thank you for showing me I’m stronger, wiser, and more capable than I ever imagined I could be.

9. Thank you, most of all, for making me a mother. You are the best gift I ever got.

What will you thank your baby for this Mother’s Day?

Leah Maxwell is a book editor, freelance writer, cereal addict, wife, and mom to two young boys. She has been blogging at A Girl and a Boy since 2003.  

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Getting a new baby to sleep through the night is pretty much the Holy Grail of parenting, and it's a quest that can take months or even years to complete! So it's no wonder that exhausted moms and dads are willing to try just about anything for a few hours of consecutive shut-eye -- but sleep training at two months of age? 

New York and Los Angeles-based practice Tribeca Pediatrics is raising eyebrows with its rather extreme recommendations to start sleep training at two months of age, and it's no surprise that people are, well, surprised. Sleep training at any age is somewhat controversial: As you're no doubt aware, the practice (also known as Ferberizing) involves letting a baby "cry it out" at night instead of picking her up to soothe and/or feed her when she fusses.

Advocates of sleep training say it helps to teach babies the all-important skill of "self-soothing" and claim that it's completely harmless; detractors say that ignoring a baby's cries is a form of neglect which can lead to increased cortisol levels and actual physical (as well as mental) trauma. But generally, even pro-sleep training types have agreed that parents shouldn't attempt the "cry it out" technique until babies are four to six months of age.

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At two months -- eight weeks! -- old, many babies are still being fed on-demand (particularly if they're breastfeeding). Some doctors say they're physically not even capable of sleeping for more than a few hours at a time. Are these incredibly tiny and vulnerable creatures really ready to tough it out on their own for an entire night?

According to Michel Cohen, M.D., founder of Tribeca Pediatrics, sleep training "actually works better at 2 months than at 4 months. It is tougher when the baby is used to more soothing.”

And sure, yeah, I believe that's probably true. But at what cost? Even if sleep training is considered medically safe (though not by everybody), what kind of damage does it do to babies emotionally?

I want to make it clear that I'm in no way judging parents who do choose to sleep train their babies -- new parent exhaustion is unbelievably difficult to deal with, and we've all been at the point where we feel like we would literally do anything for a decent night's sleep. Plus, it's easy for new parents to be convinced that one way or another of doing something is the best way for their kid (especially if highly qualified docs are the ones doing the convincing). But personally, I just didn't have the stomach to sleep train any of my three kids.

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They were so tiny, and helpless, and completely new to this big and scary world ... how could I leave them to cry alone in the middle of the night, not knowing if anybody was ever going to come to their aid? The very thought of it made me ill. Every family is different, but I knew in my heart that my babies needed to be reassured. They needed to know that they have parents who love them and will always be there for them, no matter what. And I have an extremely hard time understanding how anyone could believe that responding to an infant's cries will "spoil" him. How is making sure that the basic physical needs of a weeks-old baby are met the same thing as "spoiling" a child?

I will admit here that it took a long, long time for my two older children to sleep through the night, and my little one is still waking up periodically. So, who knows, maybe the joke's on me. But I know myself as a parent, and I know that I would lose more sleep over the fact that I was letting my baby cry alone than I would over actually getting up to feed or cuddle my baby, so in the end, my decision to not sleep train was as much a practical one as an emotional one.

I just hope that parents of a similar mindset don't feel bullied by their pediatricians to sleep train because it's supposedly the "best thing" for their baby. We all have to do what truly, truly feels right for us and our children -- and I can't believe that sleep training at two months feels right for everybody!

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Just because the odds of conceiving quintuplets naturally is about one in 55 million doesn't mean it can't happen to you -- just ask Australian mom Kim Tucci, who recently gave birth to five healthy babies (four girls and one boy) via a planned C-section. Already a mom to three kids ages 9 and under, Tucci delivered with the help of a team of 50 (50!) doctors and nurses, and now a gorgeous photo series of her beautiful brood is going viral.

Click through our slideshow to see the awww-inducing photos of Keith, Ali, Penelope, Tiffany, and Beatrix (and their mama!), taken by photographer Erin Hoskins of Erin Elizabeth Photography. 

Also be sure to check out Tucci's Facebook page, Surprised by Five, for more info and updates on this remarkable family (and consider donating to the GoFundMe set up to help the family reach their goal of purchasing a van capable of transporting their entire family -- as of now, they have to travel in three separate cars!).

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Of all the momentous first-year milestones new parents look forward to, baby's debut smile has got to be the sweetest one of all. There's nothing to make your heart feel like it's going to explode right out of your chest like the sight of that first gummy grin -- but when can you actually expect it to happen? (And are those early smiles really just "gas," like your grandmother claims?)

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To find out more about this heartwarming developmental step, we spoke with American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson Avril Beckford, MD, FAAP. Our first question: Are those first smiley faces really due to rumbly tummies?

"I don't think it's gas; I think it's just a happy feeling that comes over them and it's a beautiful thing," Dr. Beckford told CafeMom. 

"That first smile is the most magical moment ever, and it's so important."

That said, all early smiles aren't created equal. "There are two different types of smiles in a newborn," Dr. Beckford explained.

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In the first month or so of your baby's life, those oftentimes sleepy smirks are generally what's known as "spontaneous smiles," or expressions that aren't a reaction to any sort of external stimulation. And while experts have traditionally claimed that these smiles have nothing to do with emotions and are instead simply triggered by the random firing of neurons in the brain (which would explain why these smiles so often happen when baby is sleeping), Beckford believes there are exceptions to this rule. 

"There are guidelines and textbooks and then there are those babies that just defy the odds," she said. 

The next type of grin your little one will flash, however, is definitely the "real" thing: A "social smile" comes from the brain's emotional center and is usually in reaction to mom or dad (or even a big brother or sister).

"The first social smile usually happens between one and two months of age when they're really recognizing their mother and changing their expressions in response to primary caregiver," said Beckford.

And if it doesn't happen by two or three months (accompanied by eye contact), Beckford recommends bringing it up to your doctor. But don't worry too much -- there's a lot you can do to help your baby put on a happy face.

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"There's much we as parents can do regarding early childhood brain development," said Beckford.

"From avoiding stress during pregnancy and the first year, to taking time to be engaged and make eye contact as opposed to being distracted. Just smiling, touching, and holding will enhance social development. And reading to your baby -- from day one!"

One thing's for sure: All that cooing and cuddling and one-on-one time is guaranteed to put a smile on your face, too!

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We all have the best of intentions when it comes to capturing those unforgettable milestones from our baby's first months in a Pinterest-ready book to be cherished forever ... except the reality of crafting these keepsakes as a busy mom can be quite the challenge. But don't worry if you're not a scrapbook queen -- luckily, there are lots of modern-day updates on traditional baby books available that make memory-preservation a snap!

Whether you're looking for a way to virtually chronicle your little one's babyhood or a more tangible record, you'll find something here to fit the bill -- and none of them take nearly as much effort to put together as the albums our moms spent hours assembling!

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After several months of pregnancy and anticipation, the day finally came. You birthed your baby -- now what?

I'm just weeks into the experience. After 25 grueling hours of labor (with three hours of active pushing that felt like a lifetime), little Lucy was born. She was five pounds and 10 ounces of perfection, and although she was two weeks early (which many did not predict because she's my first), I was thrilled to have gotten the "rough part" over with ... But wait -- was that really the "rough part"? I wondered while Lucy was being discharged from the hospital.

There are many thoughts that plague the new parent's mind shortly after delivery. From happy to worried, from confusion to sheer terror, here are the feelings my mommy friends and I agree we had while driving our babies home from the hospital.

"I'm invincible!"

There's something about giving birth that still amazes me. I realize it's the miracle of life, nature at work and all that, but I recall thinking during the 30-minute drive home, I still can't believe a small human came out of my vagina. It truly is unbelievable that your body knows to transform like magic to bring a life into the world. For months leading up to the big day, I was so anxious. Thoughts like: How is this going to happen? It's going to hurt like a b**ch. Can I physically and mentally handle this? But once you've accomplished the amazing feat, you suddenly feel invincible. After this experience, you may feel like you can do anything! I know I did.

"Is this really happening?"

For mom Hannah's firstborn, she thought, I can't believe she's really here! I can't believe I have a really small and really fragile baby behind me in the car.

Strap on your seat belts, mom. It's going to be a bumpy (yet rewarding) ride.

"Can't we just stay?"

One thing I hadn't realized prior to delivery was how amazing the nurses would be at the hospital. They taught my husband and me so much during our three-day stay that we almost didn't want to go home (despite how uncomfortable that hospital bed and the chair my husband slept in were).

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My friend, Jennifer, echoes the sentiment. "I remember not wanting to leave," she said. "I had so much help at the hospital and very little at home, so I remember wishing I could take a nurse, the lactation consultant, and my doula with me."

My friend, Vivienne, also recalled saying to herself, "Crap, I don't have a nurse to ask to make sure if baby is okay! Is that color poop normal? Is she getting enough to eat?"

"Is this car seat in here right?"

Aside from thinking how instantly in love she was with baby Aubrey, mom Vivienne recalls worrying about the car seat Aubrey was in for the drive home. "Did I put the car seat in properly?" she asked herself. I felt the same way. In addition to installing the apparatus, I fixated on whether or not Lucy was comfortable in the seat itself. Is she too snug? Is the belt too loose? Is she safe? Did I buy the right kind?

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If you want to be super sure about your baby's safety and comfort for the drive home and beyond, Vivienne suggests visiting your local police facility to have an officer check out the seat's installation. You can also do extra research online and with the car seat manufacturer to ensure baby is placed and secured in the seat properly. Before leaving the hospital, your discharge nurse may also be able to confirm that baby is safe in her carrier.

"Hey, slow down!"

Car seat woes aside, be forewarned: That first ride with baby will be anxiety-ridden and you will probably drive your driver crazy. With such precious cargo, I couldn't help but remind my husband, who was behind the wheel, to go slower than usual, obey every road rule as if he needed to get a perfect score on a driving test, and stay calm (even though I was far from it). Whether it's your husband or an Uber driver, it's important to be relaxed because the last thing you need in your vehicle during baby's first car ride is anxious energy.

"Where's the nearest drug store?"

Sorry to get so personal here, but one of my biggest fears -- you know, when I was no longer on the painkillers the nurses were giving me -- was peeing or, worse, pooping.

Bringing a baby home is all new to you, but so is going numbers one and two with birthing wounds. And no matter how much witch hazel they give you at the hospital, you know going to the bathroom won't be pleasant for up to six weeks.

To make "the go" more bearable, stop off for some stool softener and Dermoplast on the drive home.

"What's for dinner?"

I know I couldn't help but rejoice at the fact I could finally eat after hours of labor -- and eat almost anything I want after months of pregnancy. You can have raw sushi again, cold cuts, a medium rare steak ... What will your first meal be upon getting home? Granted, they do serve food during your hospital stay, but that's no match for your favorite restaurant, takeout joint, or home-cooked meal.

When driving home, Vivienne said to herself, "Yay, I can eat sushi and drink wine again!"

For Hannah's second baby, she remembers saying, "I'm so happy my baby is here ... But I wonder what we're going to eat for dinner."

So yeah, even with the excitement of baby coming home, you will obsess over food -- at least your first awesome meal -- until you realize you have very little time to eat when baby is feeding around the clock. Get ready!

"Are we really prepared for this?"

I'm a planner. That's how I'm wired. I made shopping and to-do lists throughout my pregnancy to prep for the baby. I wanted to make sure all my bases were covered and I had a solution or action for every baby need and scenario. But even after all that planning, during that drive home with baby, I still wondered, are my husband and I prepared? Are we ready to take care of an infant? Are we ready to raise a child?

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The truth is, there is no way to prepare. You might have bought every "must have" item, read every baby book, googled all of your questions about caring for a newborn, but until it happens, until you're home with your wee one, you just can't know everything you need to know, have everything you need to have, and be ready for every situation that comes your way.

In the past few weeks, I learned I have to take being a mom day by day, hour by hour, even minute by minute. The moment you think you've got things "down," baby will throw you for a loop -- from peeing while you're changing her diaper, to spitting up when there's no burp cloth in sight, to changing up her feeding and sleeping schedule when you finally feel like you're in a rhythm.

And that's okay.

All of a sudden -- from the minute you pull out of the hospital parking lot -- you'll become the best problem solver around. You'll be more efficient than ever before. You'll be the most patient and flexible person you know. You'll be a mom.

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There’s more to teething than just the discomfort in your baby’s gums, and many first-time parents find themselves at a loss as to how to soothe their little ones. The good news is that there are many things you can do to help. Teething is a pain, but there are plenty of ways to make it less painful for your little ones. Here are 5 tips to make the process more comfortable and put the smile back on your baby’s face.

1. Teething babies drool A LOT, and drool-soaked clothes can irritate their delicate skin. Keep plenty of drool bibs and burp cloths on hand, and dress your baby in easy-off shirts for quick changes.  

2. If drool rash becomes a problem, Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment can be used to soothe, and to protect to help heal chapped, irritated skin on your baby’s face and neck.  

3. Not all teething toys are the same. Younger babies need easy-to-hold teethers, and older babies will benefit from unique shapes that can reach their developing molars. Make sure your teethers are nontoxic, age-appropriate, and given to your baby under adult supervision.

4. Some people have linked teething to diaper rash. If that’s a problem for your baby, don’t forget to make Aquaphor Baby Diaper Rash Cream part of your regular diaper changing routine.  

5. Teething can mean bad news for your baby’s sleep (and yours!), so consider adding some extra rocking and snuggles to a calming bedtime routine when your baby is cutting a tooth.

How do you soothe a teething baby?
 

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Trying to keep a baby with diaper rash calm during diaper changes can take some serious work. And who can blame a kid for being cranky when she’s in so much pain? Sadly, once the rash occurs, it takes some time to heal. Thankfully, you can help make an unpleasant time more bearable for your little one and, by extension, you, with a few simple strategies like these:

How do you soothe your baby during uncomfortable diaper changes?

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All parents of babies have one thing in common: Every one of us hates changing diapers, but every one of us has to do it. And we do it many times a day, for many years, and in many less-than-ideal locations and situations. (Who else has earned the merit badge for changing a diaper on a park bench?) Add to this that changing diapers isn’t a chore you can put off for later, like laundry or dishes. In order to keep everyone happy and healthy, you need to be constantly on top of your diapering game, lest you find yourself in one of these scenarios. Here are six signs you’re not changing your baby’s diaper often enough:

1. You catch your baby staring intently at the Aquaphor Baby Diaper Rash Cream on the changing table, as if he’s trying to use his mind to move it to your hands.

2. Your baby is suddenly surrounded by a swarm of cartoon flies. 

3. Your baby invented her own sign language that means “Change me NOW!”

4. Strangers in public are holding their noses and backing away. (Thank goodness for travel-sized Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment for changes on the go!)

5. You pick up your baby and wonder how he gained so much weight during naptime.

6. A hazmat crew in decontamination suits appeared out of nowhere and roped off your baby with yellow caution tape.

Whenever, and wherever, you find yourself changing your baby’s diapers, remember to protect their delicate skin by adding a layer of protection with Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment at every diaper change. (And if you see signs of diaper rash, treat promptly with Aquaphor Baby Diaper Rash Cream, which contains zinc oxide, and helps soothe and protect baby’s sensitive skin.)

How do you know when it’s time to change your baby’s diaper?

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Diaper changing can be an unpleasant event for all involved, but it’s so much worse when your little one suffers from perpetual diaper rash. My son had this problem, and changing him was paramount to an athletic feat as he thrashed and squirmed away from the wet wipe that was, undoubtedly, causing some serious discomfort on his inflamed skin.

We got desperate enough to use only water and soft cloths to wipe him, and a fragrance-free wash and shampoo to bathe him, but it wasn’t until we started eliminating certain foods from his diet and using Aquaphor Baby Diaper Rash Cream (which is hypoallergenic and has zinc oxide) that the problem totally cleared up.

For him, we discovered that peaches were the main offender, but a variety of produce can trigger diaper rash flare-ups. If your little one struggles with rashes, take a closer look at what he’s eating, because some of these foods can become a serious pain in the rear. Literally.

Which foods tend to give your baby a diaper rash?

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